Could Your Marriage Survive An Affair?

Why do some people cheat on their mates? Canadian family therapist Ann Evans, who has counseled couples for 25 years says knowing the reasons why people do so can save a lot of potential heartache:

Lack of commitment. Problems arise when an individual in a partnership have a greater commitment to “self “rather than to “us”.

Unrealistic expectations. Some people expect a marriage to be hearts and flowers all the time, rather than a garden that needs constant tending. They want love only if it’s “magic”.

Need for revenge. For some, having an affair is a way of evening up the score after an emotional betrayal or a mate’s infidelity.

A cry for help. An affair may be a desperate way of signaling to a partner that something is fundamentally wrong with the relationship.

Midlife blues. A perceived loss of attractiveness often causes people to seek some kind of validation that they can still get a new partner if they want to.

Birth of a child. The distraction a baby brings into a household often leaves men feeling unwanted, or unworthy of attention.